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Do you know how to meet interesting, honest people on the internet who you want to date? Are you looking for love online but are afraid you will find a loser instead? Many people face your same dilemma.

If you are single and looking for someone, you have a world of dates to choose from on the internet. But you must exercise caution.

How can you tell the difference between the imposters and the sincere people? Here are some simple rules to remember:

*Do not give your real name.

Use your dating name until you know you can trust the person you are talking to.

*Never give your address or home phone number.

If you decide to talk on the phone after chatting on line, get a prepaid cell phone so the number cannot be traced.

*Listen carefully for content.

At any point, if the person asks for or shares inappropriate information that is sexual in nature, sign off. Do not trust them.

*Is the conversation basically negative or positive?

Does the person complain a lot? Are they speaking unkindly about their Ex, boss, friends, or parents? If most of the conversation is negative in nature, this is a red flag that this person has issues they have not dealt with. If you try to have a relationship with this person, he or she will deposit this baggage on you.

*Meet in a public place.

If you agree to meet, do it in a public place, preferably in the middle of the day. Coffee houses are neutral, as well as casual restaurants. Use your own transportation to get yourself there and back.

*Take your cell phone.

It is always a good idea to have a friend call you while you are with this person. If the meeting is not going well, the call can be the interruption that you needed to excuse yourself.

*Practice safety.

ALWAYS let someone know where you are and who you are meeting. If this person is a complete stranger, you could ask a friend or two to be sitting in a nearby booth at the place where you are going to meet.

*Watch out for the bragging.

If this person sounds too good to be true…he or she probably is. If you plan to date someone you do not know well, get some kind of a background check.

Because of the internet, you have more options and choices and people to meet than ever before in history. You also have more challenges than ever before. You have to wade through all of the information to see who is real and who is pretending to be something they are not.

Be cautious, be wise, and know: there is someone wonderful searching for you. Don’t jump into the wrong relationship too quickly before the right one can find you.

Visit http://www.tonjaweimer.com or http://www.singlesdatingtips.com for more tips, skills, and insight on dating, relationships, singles, and love. Subscribe to our F*ree Savvy Dating Newsletter from master single’s coach, life coach, and syndicated columnist, Tonja Weimer. Copyright 2006, Tonja Weimer. (Please note source if reprinting this article.)

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Are you a senior single who is thinking about dating again? Meeting new people can be challenging especially to older people as they often face unique circumstances.

One of the greatest challenges is that many older people have been in a relationship that may have lasted for decades. Having to learn the dating game all over can give one an awkward feeling.

It is beyond the scope of this article to offer support to the person who, for any reason, is unable to let go and start over. Such a person may need help from a professional. This article is for the relationship-ready person who does not know where (or how) to start.

Another obstacle to senior dating is that there are not too many avenues open to this age-group. Singles clubs and bars and clubs are not exactly made with this population in mind. Well, being the one senior person in a club full of twenty-something year olds is not particularly endearing, and is open to the wrong interpretation.

Added to this is feeling, real or imagined that one is no longer as attractive as they once were. Physical limitations that sometimes inevitably come with age complicate things even farther. People of the same age-group might be more understanding and accommodating to these limitations.

So, where to go for the senior single seeking a companion or partner?

While joining a group or club consisting of people with similar interests may be a starting point, there still might not be as many available (and compatible) seniors. Dating has always been a numbers game. Cruises and vacation packages for seniors could cost a fortune, with zero end-results.

One option that offers the best value is senior online dating. There are dating services dedicated specifically to helping people over 40 or 50 years old find partners.

Surveys by dating sites indicate that the fastest growing segment in online dating (aka internet dating) is the above age 40 bracket. This can be traced to the virtual non-availability of other convenient dating methods open to senior singles.

Senior dating sites are very active and are not just for retirees. Nor are they for perverts simply out to satisfy their twisted cravings. Most people in this age group seek serious relationships. Plus, you need not worry about competing with younger people as they won’t be on these sites!

A senior dating service offers several advantages over other dating methods. One big advantage is ability to search among hundreds of senior singles all of whom have one goal, to find a mate. All are there because they are available (no guessing).

Another advantage is that you can search by geographical area, age, height etc., as well as interests. This greatly increases your chance of finding a compatible partner.

Reputable dating sites make huge efforts make your mate-finding experience easy through user-friendly interfaces. They also go to great lengths to protect your privacy.

Online senior personals help bring this segment of people together from the comfort and privacy of their own homes, 24/7. Seniors are able to meet on the internet without having to worry about physical limitations, loosing face, or feeling out of place.

Little wonder then, that senior dating is such a growing phenomenon on the internet. Most of the top-rated sites offer free trials. You should at least give senior online dating a try for one simple reason. It works.

David Kamau is webmaster of http://e-datecentral.com Find top-rated dating services for seniors seeking love, marriage, friendship, fun and more at: http://e-datecentral.com/personals/seniors.htm

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At a party last weekend, a married female friend pointed out two single guys and remarked, “I’m surprised nobody’s snatched those two up.”

The men in question are both good-looking, gainfully employed, and own real estate in the nation’s richest county. One of them says he’s eager to settle down and wants to find a special woman to spend his life with.

“Where are all the single women?” he asks me. “Don’t you have any single friends?”

Of course I do, and they ask me, “Where are all the single men? Doesn’t your husband have any single friends?”

You only have to check the personal ads in your local paper to see that plenty of eligible people of both sexes claim they’re actively looking for long-term partners. But it this is so, why do so many would-be marrieds remain single?

Because deep down, despite what they may tell themselves, many single people find marriage terrifying. Sure, on the surface of things, it looks great: You walk away with someone to buy a Christmas tree with, to have kids with, and you snag a regular sex partner to boot. It’s all very romantic.

But many a seasoned single has been disillusioned by the day-to-day rigors of marriage, having witnessed constant griping between wedded friends over the years: Who changed the last diaper, who got to choose the last TV program, whose turn is it to scrub the toilet?

The seasoned single is, quite frankly, freaked out by marriage and all it entails. And rightly so.

But while most unions seem to be exercises in pain and frustration, fun, adventurous, sexy, marriages do exist. The seasoned single will find herself in one of them if she takes time to figure out what she wants–as opposed to what she doesn’t want–when she gets married.

If you find yourself wondering why all your friends can get married and you can’t, it’s time to sit down and ask yourself what exactly is holding you back. Take out a pen and paper. Let spill every bugaboo you sunbconsciously harbor about the institution of marriage.

Once you know what you’re afraid of, you can make sure it never happens.

For instance:

If you shudder at the sight of your best friend’s husband, whose porn and stripper habit came to light after their wedding, you can make a conscious effort to take off the blinders and get to know a man as well as possible before you marry him.

If you fear ending up with a man like your father, who came home from work and refused to acknowledge your mother until dinner appeared on the table, you can make a conscious effort to pursue relationships with men who demonstrate good and generous temperaments.

Face it. If you’re single and say you don’t want to be, something is holding you back. It’s not your looks, your job, your clothes, or the car you drive.

It’s fear.

Find out what you’re afraid of. Know what you want and what you don’t want. Then get out of the house.

You will get married.

Terry MacDonald is the happily married author of “How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams.” Sign up for free dating tips at http://www.marrysmart.com. Check out her blog at http://happygirlmusing.blogspot.com

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